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Old Jun 14, 2022, 09:38 AM
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight View Post
Good to know it's not just me!


I think sometimes it's having someone on the outside explaining it. And with my T--I imagine it was the same with L--it's that they might essentially be saying the same thing as our spouses, but the way they explain it is different, so it hits us in a different way. Or it might be that they're the second person to say that thing, so it starts to sink in more.

i think it's both for me! even if L didn't explain it differently, used the exact same words as h, her delivery was almost always more accepting and caring whereas I would likely perceive h's as being condescending or accusing or whatever else negative. i suppose i should think about why that is....
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