Hugs, Artie. Hope it's OK to reply to this. But just wanted to say that I completely get it, how it can be an accumulation of things that just become overwhelming. That one or maybe two would be manageable on their own, but together, it uses up all your energy and can strain your ability to cope. If you reached out to L right now, it would be completely understandable (and I think she'd feel the same way).

I hope everything goes well with your H.