Hi Susan and welcome...

Meth is one of the most difficult addictions to overcome and it causes massive physical, mental and emotional damage to the user. It is also a tornado to relationships.

I commend you and your X husband's concern regarding the children...a meth addict in the depths of his addiction is no pretty site and can dissassociate,,similar to blackouts while drinking. In these episodes "anything" is possible and generally "anything" doesn't reflect good things...

It is good that you are setting boundaries. I would think that encourageing phone calls could be safely accepted in his first six months while he works on being clean and sober...then a gradual process of revisiting some physical visits as he continues to build time.

But you must be prepared for relapse,,,it is part of recovery for this addiction. Preparation must include safety for you and your children,,,so set visitation to small periods where you are not alone...

Then build trust over time...if he is committed and willing,,then he has a chance,,,if not then his denial will bring him back to his drug.

Please take care...

IMHO.

Lenny