I'm seeing red flags all over the place in your most recent post, East. It will not be safe to do trauma therapy with this T. In a way, it's helpful that she is showing you that so unambiguously. You are clearly in the right about this issue, and the fact that she made you feel like it was somehow your fault or that you're making a big deal out of nothing is a huge warning sign. You would likely hit more nuanced issues later in therapy, and if she can't handle this issue properly, then she certainly won't be able to handle those.