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Originally Posted by black-roses
So this person I haven't talked to in ages asked me "Are you still single I thought you'd be married by now" and it just like reminded me that I'm single and how I long for a boyfriend and want kids one day and now I feel bummed out. Coz I feel like guys don't like me and I will be single forever. I told this guy I liked him a few months ago and I got no reply. Like anyway I don't know why people have to ask me that so that I have to remember that I'm single and no guy likes me. I mean thanks for reminding me about my ****** love life.
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I understand how you feel. I've been in your shoes, minus wanting children of my own. I was single until I was 47. I got married late in life and did not find my mate until then.
Never say never - it can happen at any point in your life, meeting the right person. And honestly? I had to meet and kiss a LOT of frogs up until then. I went through the dating scene for years upon years, meeting all the wrong people who did not fit. I also spent a significant amount of time being single.
There's some benefits to being single, like learning to stand on your own two feet at all times, being self sufficient and independent and doing your own thing according to your terms. Enjoy this time.... or try to - because you just never know whom you're going to meet and when, that will turn it all around for you. It did for me, and quite accidentally.
Also, try not to let that person's comment bother you so much. They may not have meant it the way it sounded or the way it came across, and they may have meant it more so as a compliment to you. Like, why hasn't someone snatched you up already, because you're a great catch kind of thing - you know? I know that when people have said similar things to me, that's the way it was intended.