Take it from someone who has come to realize that real love is impossible without trust...it's time to let him go. Also, if you want a family, and he doesn't, it's probably going to be something you will end up resenting him for if you compromise just to stay with him.

As much as we'd like to, we can't make people be who we need them to be. My husband is the perfect man for me in soooooooo many ways, from his sense of humor to the way we raise our children together. He has issues from his past however that he's never dealt with which make him do hurtful things, things that make it impossible for me to trust him. In my case, my husband wants to be the person he knows I need, and is in therapy and on a road to self discovery to try and change. I truly hope he can get there, and his efforts are successful, but the outcome remains to be seen, so for now we are separated.

IMHO, this man is not the right person for you. If you can't look at him and say with 100% certainty that he is someone who you can trust your heart and soul to, someone you believe will never hurt you, I say let him go. I know it's a painful decision, and I know how hard it is to walk away from someone you love, but would you rather do it now or five years from now when your lives are even further intertwined? Only you can decide how far you are willing to compromise, but please stay true to yourself. I've learned that lesson the hard way...

Any time you need to "talk, please feel free to PM me. I send you lots of love and hugs...