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Jun 16, 2022, 01:05 PM
ArtieTheSequal
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My wife had a coworker die by suicide over ten years ago. She really liked and respected him as a person but they were not friends outside of work, and even so, she still tears up when she talks about him. She has gone over and over her last few interactions with him, trying to make sense of it and wondering if she could have known or could have helped him. It weighs heavily on her even though they weren't particularly close, so I can't imagine how the other people in his life feel.
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I wondered too after the fact if there was something I should have picked up on/something I could have done or said differently on that phone call. He didn't say anything at all that would have led me to worry about his safety, it was just a pleasant conversation until the phones got busy and I had to hang up because I was at work. We weren't friends outside of work and hadn't really talked much even at work, except for work-related stuff. I didn't know any differently, I mean, at the time I just thought he was bored so he called in. It was not an uncommon thing back then, for my coworkers to call into the 800# knowing me or the opposite-days midnights person would answer and talk if they couldn't sleep in the middle of the night. Most of us were in our 20's and we were a close-knit group of employees, even if we didn't all socialize outside of work. I still have so many memories. Even though I worked through my guilt a long time ago (that maybe I could have done something if I'd known) I still feel sad after 30 years if something reminds me of him (like when recently maybe a month go I had a dream about it. said dream is why it's so fresh in my mind right now.)
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