Thank you reptileinyourhead. I appreciate your kindness. I appreciate everyone’s advice, and I have tried to remember that everyone will have biases. I understand people wanting to be blunt with me, thinking I need a push. I say I’m stuck after all. But I guess the root hasn’t been pulled at yet.
I didn’t want to be defensive or emotional, so I had to sit awhile with some things. The self harm issue is difficult. It’s a sensitive subject. I don’t believe my husband uses that against me, or to gain something. It’s a big struggle for him and has nothing to with me, except all the worry I felt about it. It’s his thing and he tries to conceal it.