@Starlingflock, when you say the root hasn't been pulled at yet, what do you mean? Just trying to understand your perspective and words here.

I do know one thing: we cannot leave a bad situation, even if it's harming us, unless we are fully ready to leave and despite what anyone else may say about it being harmful. A person has to come to their own conclusions about staying or leaving, and on one else can make that decision. It's entirely up to you. And sometimes, it can take a very long time before one decides it's time to leave.... and, often people stay, for whatever reason, hoping it will get better. Sometimes it does get better, and often times, not. In life, we just need to try to make the best decisions we can for ourselves, with the information we have at hand. Big life decisions like this one are never easy.