My Gf has DID, and has more trouble than I can categorize. I've been with her and seen the reactions of so called "therapists" to what she describes. The most astounding reaction was, "My God, how are you even still alive.". The last therapist we went to had this to say to me in private: "You don't have to stay in this relationship.", I stopped her right there and went on to harangue her for about five minutes. I was escorted out of the building by security. Why do people always say "You don't have to stay." when we love these people and want to help them? I'm beyond caring what professionals have to say anymore.

Are "professionals" in this field uncaring, unfeeling monsters, or do they just not have a single clue what they are doing. I've read so many white papers, and research notes on DID that I feel like I know more than these so called "professionals", how can this be? I took abnormal psychology as an elective in college, and it is my opinion that DID is very much an individual experience, and varies from person to person, just like every other sort of mental illness that isn't organic. Yet, we have no solutions, and very little help from people in the field, why is this? My major was mechanical engineering, and I hold a masters, so solving problems, and designing solutions is what I used to do. But this, is beyond my skillset, and possibly beyond my understanding.

Everything I try to help her, seems to just shift the pain and heartache in another direction for her. I've found NO answers anywhere, and no helpful guidance.

I definitely understand how you feel, if John Hopkins can't help, or won't help, WHO CAN? Someone out there has some answers, why can't we find them?