Being married to any kind of addict is hard. Lenny is right your first priority is to yourself and your kids. Demanding a period of clean time as a condition of getting back together is smart and self preserving.

I know it's more for partners of alcoholics but have you ever considered attending an Alanon meeting? I've never been to one myself, but I've heard really good things about it in terms of getting support from other people whose loved ones suffer from alcoholism and learning to deal with it.

Good luck to you.

---splitimage