Fluff,

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. How can i tell if an action is an action that implies caring vs just an action relative to general character? Something might make someone a nice person, or a thoughtful one.. but it may not imply caring about me. How could i tell?

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I think that Mouse hit the nail on the head when she said:

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I've had to learn what caring feels like,

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It is a matter of allowing the feeling state to guide you and let the brain rest a bit...

Peace