Daf - oh, the Pamuk episode! I guess you either loved it or hated it! It clinched it for me. I was a little italian catholic schoolgirl all over again - i felt terror! It was totally not primal. It's what had been taught to me. But yeah it felt primal. Wow.

@@ - the luncheon sounds like a nightmare to me. Then again, the big wake luncheon we had for my mother was really the only tolerable part of the whole deal for me. One, my canadian aunt(-in-law) was sat at my table and she is the only human in the family. Two, it was held in my old church bldg, so that had a lot of good memories for me. I used to clean the wax off the candles, back when i was gonna be a nun, 8th grade-ish.That smelled sooo good.