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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
First of all you have been taking important steps towards establishing your own independence. You are also getting therapy and have chosen to do art classes.
It’s important to keep in mind that you devoted yourself to being a good mother and you focused all your attention on your children. What you have shared about your husband is not something a person “just” knows how to understand and support. A lot more is understood then 20 years ago.
Also you have a home you have invested in and you still have at least one child living at home. You can’t just throw away years of investing in that home. It’s not like you are renting, this property has accumulated value.
Please don’t feel pressured to decide about this relationship. If he is not physically abusive to you or your children then you can take time to build up your self and your son has a home while he is finishing school.
Has your husband started his new job?
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Thank you. Yes I have been taking steps, for quite some time, thank you. The job only lasted a week, so I didn’t sign up for the art classes since I can’t justify the cost at the moment. Plus I want to continue daughters art classes, can’t afford adding me and her for another joint class. I guess I could do my own without her…but Signed us up for the gym instead.
He had an interview today and more to come.
So true that 20 years ago less was understood. I have figured many things out on my own through living through it.
The house is a big problem for me because of how inflated prices are in my town right now. It’s unreal. I can only rent a one bedroom for the cost of the mortgage. I saw a quite small cute house about six blocks away, figuring maybe 300-350k? Almost 700k! Two bedroom, one bath. Small lot. Crazy! If things were worse at home, I would take the financial hit. But it’d seem drastic at the moment. I guess it makes me pause because I don’t want to struggle financially.
I have felt less urgency about making a decision. I’ve stepped back and am just trying to process. I’m not evaluating much now. I’m just trying to catch my breath and process.