And so it goes on....

Phoned mother last night to see if she still wants lift to funeral today. "No, I've made other arrangements". Silence. Extricated that my brother's taking her. Also to aunt's birthday party on Saturday. That's fine, if he wants to do extra miles to keep her happy. Doesn't matter, as he has company car anyway.

Conversation degenerated into usual blame fest, but this time I had to call out another lie. Then had lecture about how I was expected to behave today, at funeral. Made comment that I would never, ever be disrespectful to someone's memory or family. Shows how little she knows her own daughter. This is a mother who claims I show her no respect yet still treats me like a child. Regardless of how she behaves to me as an adult, I'm still supposed to take all the c**p that she dishes out. Oh, it's her birthday next week and she wanted me to know that she's yet to make up her mind what to do. So, I'll be to blame if she decides to cancel arrangements already in place. Playing the martyr as usual!

Have tried reasoning with her, counter-attacking, even staying silent. None of it works. There's got to be more to life at 60+ than this!