Thanks Rechu

I have done both. Visit once a week, likewise phone calls. My aunt, some time ago, said I was visiting too much. Others have said the same.

Well, today she was upset at the funeral but my brother buzzed round her. Frequently he used humour to keep her on an even keel. Although I hadn't seen him for months, he was very pleasant to me and even bought me a drink at the wake. She did talk to me about the people there but most of the time, I left her with my brother and it seemed to work. She could also see me talking/socialising with other people.

Saturday will be interesting, whether the same frame of mind continues. I did hear her trying to discuss her birthday with my brother, but a wake was not the right place/time.

I'm not under any illusion that anything has changed, it was just the circumstances today that made it better.