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Originally Posted by Starlingflock
Thank you. Yes I have been taking steps, for quite some time, thank you. The job only lasted a week, so I didn’t sign up for the art classes since I can’t justify the cost at the moment. Plus I want to continue daughters art classes, can’t afford adding me and her for another joint class. I guess I could do my own without her…but Signed us up for the gym instead.
He had an interview today and more to come.
So true that 20 years ago less was understood. I have figured many things out on my own through living through it.
The house is a big problem for me because of how inflated prices are in my town right now. It’s unreal. I can only rent a one bedroom for the cost of the mortgage. I saw a quite small cute house about six blocks away, figuring maybe 300-350k? Almost 700k! Two bedroom, one bath. Small lot. Crazy! If things were worse at home, I would take the financial hit. But it’d seem drastic at the moment. I guess it makes me pause because I don’t want to struggle financially.
I have felt less urgency about making a decision. I’ve stepped back and am just trying to process. I’m not evaluating much now. I’m just trying to catch my breath and process.
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Nothing wrong with exploring your options when it comes to investigating your homes worth and what you might have if you sold it and split the cost equity and what you could get. And that is without complications because if he wants to be a jerk he could end up going through the equity in legal fees.
It’s no easy task to split up after 20 years of marriage.
Not much you can do if he chooses to be a jerk on social media. There are people that are addicted to drama. He may very well be one of them.
It’s a waste of time to call a person out if they have narcissistic tendencies. They just turn things around and play the victim. That’s not diagnosing him but from what you share it sounds like he gaslights you from time to time and avoids taking responsibility for behaving badly at times.