Yeah I guess that’s the only goal I have left regarding my husband, to prevent or minimize his self destruction. The big decision is to not live with him. As he says, “betray him,” “ruin the family,” leave him for “pathetic reasons,” “hurt our daughter” and so on.

I have been talking to a counselor/psychologist, not psychiatrist.

Yes there were many red flags not long from the start with him. He presented himself as clean cut, family guy, strong, clever, fun, romantic. I went in head over heels. We starting being intimate and I think I wanted to commit because of that. When he did crap things, I believed he didn’t know any better (the way he talked about his parents made me think this). A few months after dating, my dad passed away unexpectedly..I was very affected and he stayed by my side hours on end just holding my hand while I stared in disbelief or cried. This meant a lot to me. It seemed he could be thoughtful at times, but other times he could be very rude and short. He talked like a dreamer, and he talked about our happy future. He wanted a baby even, and I became pregnant when we were together for only around ten months. We decided to get married, and got married around the year mark of being together.