It's very immature behavior on his part, and it shows a me vs. you type of antagonistic attitude. You're not a unified team.


Things don't just improve on their own. He needs intensive long-term treatment and therapy.


It makes sense that you're feeling the grief. This is not the relationship you had hoped for, and it seems you've been trying all this time to make things work. Please don't make his poor behaviors somehow your fault. That is very common in an abuse victim, to feel that somehow it is all their fault for how they are being treated. Your husband is 100% responsible for how he treats you. And no amount of begging or pleading will change someone. I know this from first-hand experience. It's like they have to hit rock bottom before real change is even a part of the equation.