Sometimes the breaking point is a simple action about something we take for granted.

My personal breaking point was being told I wasn't allowed to change the TV channel before bed to check the weather for the next day. (A personal routine so I could plan what to wear to make mornings faster and easier with 2 kids) I went to another room to watch the report. The next morning I went to check the same channel for the local traffic report while my kids ate breakfast. (More of my personal routine because I drove my kids to school/childcare on my way to work). He had used parental controls and blocked the local news station that ran traffic and weather every 2 minutes in a loop. I had always excused his abusive behaviors, his cruel words and emotional manipulation as a result or symptom of something else, as if he couldn't help it. Blocking the channel was intentional and specific. It was deliberate and intended to be hurtful.

I hope you and your children are doing OK. One day at a time.