I am sure no one judges you! There is nothing to judge, you aren’t doing anything bad or unusual. It’s just hard to navigate these kind of things.

As your relationship progresses I’d probably let his kids lead the way on how they want to proceed in building the relationship. It does take time. There are always some little and some big things to iron out as time progresses. Blended situations have their own unique dynamics. Now one thing I’d like to know is if his daughter plans on always living there or she will eventually be on her own? I sure hope she won’t always live there (unless of course she has a condition requiring her to live at home).