It’s about needing to have the power. Yet it’s also about lack of self love too. That is something a person develops over time. You are projecting how you feel about yourself onto others.

Often there is a need for drama. This is created for ego in order to control and have power over.

No other person can convince you to love yourself. That’s the plight of a narcissist which is why they have a hard time experiencing a healthy relationship. They often cheat if they are in a relationship. Their ego is never satisfied.