It’s not the person’s fault if they have personality disorder or illness or disorder. But calling one’s spouse bad names or involving a child in one’s drama is a choice, not an illness.

As about his stash. Is he keeping drugs in the house? I get it that’s probably legal in your state, it’s legal in mine but I am not sure how wise is it to keep all that in the house? I’d not allow drugs in my house. If I had an addict in my house, he’d have to stash it elsewhere.

His idea to smoke his stash and then quit is silly. Having said that, that is how I quit smoking years ago. Had a goal to smoke the last pack and then last cigarette and quit cold turkey. I tried twice. It worked second time. I still remember my last cigarette. Where I sat. I remember saying to myself “this is my last cigarette. I will enjoy it and then I am done”. Then I counted days. A day without smoking a week a month first year and then I lost track. Was it easy? No. But these were regular cigarettes, not mind altering substances!

I don’t know anyone who quit alcohol or drugs cold turkey without any psychological and/or physical assistance. Who is he kidding here