I just emailed my T about this.

She used to tell me/us "I love you" at times. Recently she's withdrawn that statement. Not that she doesn't, but feels that ethically she's not sure she should. So now we use our own special term to tell eachother that we care for eachother.

One of my littles emailed her about how her ACTIONS speak louder then WORDS every could regarding her caring for us. We know this by the time she spends with us in session and responding to email. When she calls us back or calls to just check on how we're doing after an extremely upsetting email. By helping us through the trauma and all the insecurities.

Slowly learning that her actions make up where she can no longer say the words...