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Old Jun 26, 2022, 06:49 PM
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Originally Posted by will19 View Post
Where did that reading come from? Being a never married guy myself over 30, I didn't like seeing that - the guys being the "bottom of the barrel" part.
It's an anti-male statement, and shouldn't be taken too seriously. Nothing that generalizes like that can be valid all the time. It's a reaction to the old thinking that men who remain single do so by choice, whereas women who remain single are frustrated rejects whom nobody wanted. I saw it in a women's magazine. Staying single used to be considered a victory for a man, but failure for a woman. This statement was a reaction to that mindset.

It was imagined that a man stayed single, so he could keep "playing the field." The statement I quoted viewed men like that as immature, selfish narcissists. Women who remained single longer were found to have spent more time educating themselves, were able to earn a good livelihood, and had broader interests than "landing a husband." They were more self-reliant than "housewives."

Actually, people are individuals, and each person's story is unique, especially today, when there are more options for how one's life can unfold.

The original poster's complaint was that she was being viewed as a "reject" that no one wanted . . . and she, herself, seemed to view her single status as a failure in life. The quote was a tongue-in-cheek response to that.

Just out of idle curiosity, Will, why do you think you have remained single? Was that your preferred status?