I wasn't talking about what "she said." I really don't care what "she said." This is about what "you" say. You keep describing your husband as "sick."

You are not being "backed into a corner." You are backing into a corner. There's a difference.

You spoke earlier of shame being thrown at you. Nothing is being thrown at you (except your husband's insults.)

It truly is shameful to abandon a spouse because one is tired of his "sickness." As long as you see him as a "sick" person, you will feel ashamed of failing to support him. And you will deserve to feel shame. It is wrong to blame someone for being sick.

Yes, your husband is sick. But that's not the whole story, as you keep making it be. He is a bad person. He engages in evil behavior. Mental illness doesn't make a person bad. He's bad because he lacks moral values. He believes he has a right to do whatever he can get away with. That belief didn't come from being mentally ill. It probably came from growing up under the influence of someone who lacked moral integrity.

Your husband's lack of moral values comes from his beliefs about right and wrong. It is not a sickness. It is an evil way of thinking. At his age, that way of thinking is hard-wired in his head. You will not change it by pleading with him to adopt a "healthy" approach to life. Doing what is right is something He Does Not Care About.