Take one step at a time.... your next step after taking a deep breath is consult an attorney. The step after that is talk to a financial planner.

Keep breathing. It's OK to cry. It's OK to feel a sense of relief. And it's OK to be scared. When you mentioned about the breaking of vows, I remembered something a friend told me when I cried about that very thing... she asked me if I vowed to ignore my own feelings and mental health, if I promised to forgo my own happiness and live in turmoil, misery and worry. It was a powerful realization to have... what was promised to me didn't happen and I never promised to endure abuse.