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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover
Take one step at a time.... your next step after taking a deep breath is consult an attorney. The step after that is talk to a financial planner.
Keep breathing. It's OK to cry. It's OK to feel a sense of relief. And it's OK to be scared. When you mentioned about the breaking of vows, I remembered something a friend told me when I cried about that very thing... she asked me if I vowed to ignore my own feelings and mental health, if I promised to forgo my own happiness and live in turmoil, misery and worry. It was a powerful realization to have... what was promised to me didn't happen and I never promised to endure abuse.
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Thank you. I did feel relief after I told him. But also can’t stop crying. I’ve been repressing so much emotion. Nothing will really change until I file. I have to do it even though it will hurt.
He left our wedding reception to get high (friend lived a couple blocks down the street). I noticed and was a bit annoyed but tried not to care. After our wedding, I drove us to beach for our honeymoon. I was pregnant. He slept on the way. We went into our hotel and he fell right asleep. I watched tv and ate cheese and cold cuts alone until bedtime. The next morning I woke up early but he was not there. He was gone for a couple hours. No note, no phone. At first I thought maybe he was grabbing us breakfast. Then as more time went on I thought maybe he was buying me a gift. He finally returned empty handed and said he had decided to go golfing. He wasn’t even a golfer. I was confused and he was clueless like it didn’t occur to him that I would wake up and wonder wth.
Your friends words are what I have been feeling 😞