You have been getting some sound advice. Once you have chosen to see the reality you will be opening some psychological doors that can fill you with sadness and crying is normal and may happen a lot as you move forward. You will be grieving a loss of what you hoped would happen that never took place. These hugs are not really about loving him but saying goodbye to the illusion you created of him. It’s really very much like mourning a death.

It’s important you stay clear on the reality so you don’t give him a chance to pull you back into the illusion. Now, read what I just said a few times because it’s important.