I do not think all clients are equal to a therapist. I don't think that's bad either, everyone has different life stories, different needs and different issues, if they all were the same to a therapist, I'm not sure how much he could help.

Regarding the question about crisis: I for the longest time thought this would be what would be happening to me. I used to have such issues with friends, and why should a therapist be any different. I have to say though that somehow I am now less likely to be in crisis than I used to be. I think this is due to me learning that I'd get attention, whether or not I'm in crisis, whether or not I even need to be in therapy. My T has always reassured me that even if we talk about nothing at all, as long as I find it useful, we can continue doing that.
I am somebody who I'd describe as "walking talking fear of abandonment", yet somehow I have learned that when therapy comes inevitably to an end, even then there is a connection and somehow even "attention", though not in the same way as before.

Also, being in crisis a lot can at some points probably even make a client less "liked" and therefore not equal to another client who is in crisis less. I don't think this should be taken out on the client too much though. My T has told me before that sometimes he thinks "ah, CNS again with this topic", but that is to some part just how interactions go, as long as it's not a constant, it's fine. Some of our topics I am sure he finds both meaningful and can learn from them, I know of some things that I struggle with that nobody else in his client group does. But I do not think that means that another client is less important or "valid", we're just different. It's like at work, sometimes I want a challenge and think really hard about some stuff, but other times I want a cup of coffee and listen to somebody in a meeting.

I do think a lot of this depends on the individual, but after all, most 3 year olds learn not to throw a tantrum every day after a while. And they still get some candy every now and then.q