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Old Jun 27, 2022, 12:11 PM
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Originally Posted by Rose76 View Post
It's an anti-male statement, and shouldn't be taken too seriously. Nothing that generalizes like that can be valid all the time. It's a reaction to the old thinking that men who remain single do so by choice, whereas women who remain single are frustrated rejects whom nobody wanted. I saw it in a women's magazine. Staying single used to be considered a victory for a man, but failure for a woman. This statement was a reaction to that mindset.

It was imagined that a man stayed single, so he could keep "playing the field." The statement I quoted viewed men like that as immature, selfish narcissists. Women who remained single longer were found to have spent more time educating themselves, were able to earn a good livelihood, and had broader interests than "landing a husband." They were more self-reliant than "housewives."

Actually, people are individuals, and each person's story is unique, especially today, when there are more options for how one's life can unfold.

The original poster's complaint was that she was being viewed as a "reject" that no one wanted . . . and she, herself, seemed to view her single status as a failure in life. The quote was a tongue-in-cheek response to that.

Just out of idle curiosity, Will, why do you think you have remained single? Was that your preferred status?
I had emphasized with the OP (reply #10) because of what she said hit home with me. Over the years I had been hit up with comments about not having a woman as they were not very nice for me to hear. Unfortunately, with those who never got married and are up there in age, they get hit with unkind and hurtful remarks - men and women. With what that man told her could have been left to interpretation - it was either a put down or a compliment. But either way, it was hurtful to her and it would have been hurtful for me.

Unfortunately there's a lot of commentators with the media and online who are into male/female bashing. Those things are very vicious and hurtful. And many times they are not true with what they say.

As for me, I didn't ultimately choose remaining single. And I have never been a player (or playboy). There are many fine men/women who never got married and some who are not. Also there are many who got married that I would consider "bottom of the barrel".

I hope what I said is helpful.
Thanks for this!
Bill3, Rose76