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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
That’s what he needs to do for himself. He is not doing that for you. He has spent years using and he has not changed since your wedding nite where he chose to be selfish. He has a long journey because not only does he need to learn how to live his life sober, but he will need to take responsibility and grow up.
Statistically, most partners wait until their spouse gets on their feet and then they leave. This typically happens within three years.
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He has not changed since wedding night…true. He might have died down a bit with age or medication or whatever, but he’s just as selfish. He said he was sorry on the note and text, which is something he never does. I guess he deprives apologies so he can try to whip out that magic word when he thinks it counts.
I always been very confused by his thought process and reactions, they seem very inconsistent to me. I realized today (with everyone’s help here) that when he finds something that works to get him what he wants, he just keeps doing it again and again and again, and that’s his only parameter.