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nonightowl · Jun 28, 2022 at 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by rechu

I've been dealing with this lately. I am sure my mother is a narcissist, untreated, of course. She has all the traits. I was definitely the scapegoat. I live far away and have not seen her in a long time.

Now she has worsening dementia and it's been giving me weird feelings. Basically, I feel like she is already dead to me.

I feel like my sibling is already dead to me and has been for years! It's worse than if he were ACTUALLY dead. Estrangement is the worst. I always tell people I have no family or they're all dead. He might as well be dead, as I am to him.

On another note, I have an acquaintance with worsening dementia. She's just a shell of the person she used to be. I know she can't help it but it's not great to be around her anymore. I know she can't help it but I still find it unbearable at times. It's a type of LOSS, loss of that person. I started losing her years ago. She's ALIVE but not her anymore.