Wow, this is an interesting question....

Well, he has said that he likes me and cares about me. I'm glad he says that, because it gives me a bit of an anchor...but, being me, it would be easy for me to discount that as "oh, he just said that" (although he says he will always be honest with me, and I do try to believe him...)

But hearing him say that PLUS his actions makes me feel like...he really does care.

He's never not given me something I've asked for - whether it's an e-mail, a phone call, a phone message in his absence, an extra appointment, etc. Even an Uno game during session I feel like he is truly there for me.

He gives me the silly things I ask for too - like we have a running thing where we pretend he just spends all of his time in his office, 24/7, waiting for me, and sometimes at the end of session I ask if I can stay and just hang out there for the rest of the day - then we jokingly imagine his other client's reactions

We laugh together a lot.

He gave me a marble from his office to keep with me as a reminder of our connection.

He's expressed really genuine concern for my safety/health when I've been in a bad spot.

He sits on the couch with me while we do trauma stuff and I don't feel alone.

At the end of every appointment, he sits with me and we hold each others hands until I feel done. When it's been a really intense session, or we have a big break coming up, he holds my hands a little tighter, or rubs the backs of my hands with his thumbs. Before that, when I was scared of physical contact, we would sometimes touch fingertip to fingertip to connect.

He never makes me feel like my fears are silly.

He listens to me and believes me and believes in me.

I feel completely, totally safe with him - he has good, strong boundaries - which is huge because I was SA by a male "counselor" in my teens. I know that he is there FOR ME. He leaves his personal life outside of the room.

When we have any sort of rupture, he works really hard with me to repair it.

He told me that the attachment goes both ways - he is attached to me, too.

I could go on and on. I feel really, really lucky to have such an awesome T.