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Old Jun 30, 2022, 05:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Starlingflock View Post
He was supposed to do his addiction intake today, but instead he’s decided to leave the state. Moving in with his bro and wiping his hands clean of this.
WOW - so instead of facing his addiction and instead of getting actual treatment for it, he runs away from the responsibility of it all.

Do you see this? He cannot own up to his problems, nor get help for himself.

He has saved you from a whole lot more grief. Look at this as your ticket to freedom.

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Originally Posted by Starlingflock View Post
Can’t sleep. Keep looking at the doorway. Today was intense, I feel tingley.
I have so many emotions.
I restated that i want a divorce because he called me gross again.
He said it was silly that him calling me gross should equal wanting a divorce.
He said “just go through with it then!”
He said he’ll be back to collect more things at some point.
Said he’ll send me money each month.
Said sell the house take half the 401k
Said he borrowed 1000 from the reserve line and he’ll pay it back. Told me to take his name off the bank account.
He’s going 20 hrs car drive.
Left his debit card and house key
Said he has a new phone number, I made him write it down.
Told daughter he’ll see her online when she asked him how’d they’d have visits if he’s so far away. I called him cold as ice.
I hope he follows through with what he says about sending money each month. Yes, the distance will impact your daughter, but it's best this way. Best that he is no longer living under the same roof, causing damage.

And yes, you will have many different emotions around him leaving. Keep the perspective. He is running away from getting any real help.
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Thanks for this!
Starlingflock