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Originally Posted by Have Hope
WOW - so instead of facing his addiction and instead of getting actual treatment for it, he runs away from the responsibility of it all.
Do you see this? He cannot own up to his problems, nor get help for himself.
He has saved you from a whole lot more grief. Look at this as your ticket to freedom.
I hope he follows through with what he says about sending money each month. Yes, the distance will impact your daughter, but it's best this way. Best that he is no longer living under the same roof, causing damage.
And yes, you will have many different emotions around him leaving. Keep the perspective. He is running away from getting any real help.
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Yes it seems that he didn’t want to go through with addiction inpatient and ran away instead. He told me a few times before that if my problem with him was weed then to just leave him and he doesn’t care. He said he loved me when he left. He pretended to want a nice goodbye but said inflammatory things right before he left so I didn’t engage. Yes it’s good he’s not here to cause more damage, then again he left me to take care of everything myself. Fine. He left for self preservation and probably to outdo me wanting a divorce. I always know if I “do something” he’ll do something three times worse.
He should be sending some money at least because he has things on auto pay from the account. He needs to pay me for them, cancel them, or put in his own new account. Then yeah child support.
I promised my daughter that I will take great care of her and we’ll enjoy our life and have fun and get through this.
There’s such conflicting feelings but I weighed this for months and pleaded with him for months with no change. I faced the truth that the only way he would treat me “well” is if I enabled him. That’s not being treated well then anyway.
I’m a single mom now. Wow.