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Originally Posted by Starlingflock
Yes it seems that he didn’t want to go through with addiction inpatient and ran away instead. He told me a few times before that if my problem with him was weed then to just leave him and he doesn’t care. He said he loved me when he left. He pretended to want a nice goodbye but said inflammatory things right before he left so I didn’t engage. Yes it’s good he’s not here to cause more damage, then again he left me to take care of everything myself. Fine. He left for self preservation and probably to outdo me wanting a divorce. I always know if I “do something” he’ll do something three times worse.
He should be sending some money at least because he has things on auto pay from the account. He needs to pay me for them, cancel them, or put in his own new account. Then yeah child support.
I promised my daughter that I will take great care of her and we’ll enjoy our life and have fun and get through this.
There’s such conflicting feelings but I weighed this for months and pleaded with him for months with no change. I faced the truth that the only way he would treat me “well” is if I enabled him. That’s not being treated well then anyway.
I’m a single mom now. Wow.
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Yes, you're a single mom now without the burden of taking care of yet another child - a man-child, which is what your husband is. He refuses to grow up.
And yes, enabling doesn't change the real problem. It only perpetuates the problem.
Of course he said mean and inflammatory things as he walked out the door. It's his M.O.
You will find that as the hours and go by without him living under your roof, that you may soon start to feel a great sense of relief. This is a burden lifted off of your shoulders. No longer do you have to deal with his. mean, cutting remarks or his derogatory ways. Yes, you will need to take care of many details yourself, but you can always get help too with those details.