He will not pay back that $1000 he took from the reserve line. He will not send you money every month. How could he? He doesn't have a job. He has no income. He never will have a job or an income. He can't get along with people well enough to hold a job . . . . . not until he finds a place of employment where everyone there will constantly kiss his behind. You know him a lot better than I do. If I'm wrong, please correct me.

He's never going to pay child support towards the upkeep of his daughter. Even if he had some income, he's not going to let your daughter's needs take precedence over what he needs for his marijuana expenditure. (That, BTW, is what's called lack of character.) Of course, I may be proven completely wrong.

Right now he's dreaming about getting half the equity in that house and in that 401K. He knows that won't be for a while. He will need money sooner than that. If there are any marital assets, or lines of credit, he can tap into, that's what he'll do.

He may even ask you for a loan. He'll say he needs the money to enable him to pursue a great job opportunity. He'll tell you how, once he gets that position, he'll be sending you monthly checks. I'm not saying this will all be a lie. He'll come up with some fantasy that he may actually believe. He'll ask you to "invest" in this great opportunity.

You might want to see if you can halt any of those automatic debits that come out for his stuff. Or . . . . see if you can transfer the money in that account over to an account that you totally control. You'ld be smart to see an attorney about putting up a financial firewall between his economic activity and yours. I think lawyers like to publish something in a paper about you not being responsible for his debts.

Also, don't go talking about your domestic problems at work. That could make your employer lose confidence in your reliability.

Your husban is going to try to rob you and your daughter of as much as he can. (It's that character thing I was telling you about. His is "bad.") Does your son have a job? If so, your husband will be hitting him up for money too. You might find it cheaper to just let hubby move back in and keep the marriage going.

Maybe I'm wrong about everything.