How rude. How does she think it’s even ok. Unless she has dementia and has no idea what she is saying. You aren’t too sensitive. She is plain rude

With younger people I believe in explaining how such comments are rude and how they shouldn’t speak like that, but with people who are set in the their ways, there is no point to correct them. They won’t change. And their apology is fake. They know they are wrong and they offend on purpose (of course unless again there is dementia at play).

I use two strategies. One is grey rocking, just totally ignore, or answer “i don’t know”, “oh ok”. They back off as I don’t engage

If they insist on engaging you, the other is playing dumb. My brother says I perfected playing dumb game. I don’t know about that but I do know that I can’t change rude behavior of someone in advanced age and if I must hang out with the person, I play dumb. That involves pretending I don’t understand the question and asking to clarify or explain repeatedly, they clarify but I continue to follow up with more questions. Or I answer but with a very long elaborate explanation like “why is your bra doing it”. “See when the fabric stretches like this, the elastic acts like it doesn’t lay down and then you know how these bras are made blah blah”. They leave me alone quick. Variety of ways to play dumb. People usually back off because there is nothing they could say to all that

I wonder if she was rude like that in younger age. My dad is rude, he’s been always this way if not worse.