Thanks, everyone! Your suggestions are all great!! Very helpful.

I’m on my way right now to see her for dinner. I’m having terrible fantasies of telling her off and of confronting her with the fact that her “perfect” son abused me for the first two years of our marriage. I want to tell her no wonder he had a mean streak before all went down between us.

I’m boiling right now over her comments. If she slings one at dinner I may just leave the table. I’m worked up right now over this issue. Apparently she creates tension and fights with her other daughter in law in California. They don’t get along. Now I can see why!!! This daughter in law is taking great care of her, yet she makes sure to let them all know just how miserable she is living with them. More rudeness. They gave her a roof over her head and this is how she behaves.

I’m going to be very quiet at dinner.