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Originally Posted by *Beth*
Egads, the SIL situation sounds difficult. Is your brother aware of her texts to you for help? If she's a member of a church it seems she could receive counseling through the church.
The only people I ever talk to about my mental health (or lack of) is here and my therapist. I might mention something small to David, but rarely. It is so very hard for me to be upfront if I am not feeling good. I have a friend of several decades & her mental illness has become worse over the years. Some severe self-injury and multiple hospitalizations. Not infrequently, she messages me on Facebook or calls me, wanting to really dump her bad feelings. My heart goes out to her, but too many times I feel like I'm barely hanging on myself.
I think what I'm saying is that yes- it's necessary to establish and re-establish boundaries with some people. I feel for you.
On a lighter side, the picnic sounds so nice. Enjoy!  |
Actually she would be considered my “ex” SIL I guess, she’s the sister of my first husband who died. We remained friends. She does not belong to a church, she practices on her own. She is very isolated (much as I am) but she doesn’t even have the benefit of a supportive husband; her husband is an emotionally and verbally abusive monster. They also have an adopted daughter with severe emotional and behavioral difficulties. It’s a very stressful situation and I understand but again, I can’t help her get out of it and I just can’t take the time to teach her all the skills I’ve learned. She needs her own therapist to teach her.
The picnic should be fun, I like going to my grandmas once a month or so to keep her company and help her do things around the house (well RS does that).