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Originally Posted by zoiecat
Have you given any more thought to DBT classes LT? I really think they would help with a lot of these issues. As for your T and the "democracy", it is ultimately his decision. Even if he wife and son want him to do something, it is his choice to make the final decision on what he is going to do. Obviously he is not going to want to cause friction with the family but again that is his choice to make. Are you scared that his family means more to him than his clients? Personally, I think everyone's family should take precedence over their job, especially since he is still able to do his job virtually. This is strange time and Covid does have the possibility to impact everyone's health so I can see how that may persuade his decision.
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I did look into DBT classes (emailed a couple places) and could maybe do them in the fall (my daughter's summer schedule would make them difficult). I got a workbook for it, though haven't really had a chance to start working through it. I wanted to talk about it with Dr. T more, too, but various other things have come up. Which, OK, I know those all sound like excuses....
I do completely understand that his family takes precedence over his clients. It's more in how he seems to shift the blame onto them (mainly his wife). I think it would feel differently to me if he said something like, "I don't want to take the risk of getting sick right before our long-awaited vacation, so I'm going to do virtual." Rather than "They voted, and I lost." And if he'd planned for the virtual in advance, as opposed to the last-minute. That's really the main part of it for me, I think, the last-minute-ness.
I know things come up, like if he'd tested positive or had a known Covid exposure, then he'd have had to go virtual--I completely get that. But this is something he could have theoretically decided on before the day he shared it. And I still would have been sad, but at least I'd have been able to prepare for it instead of feeling like it had been sprung on me.