That's a good question--I believe I'm mainly upset about the sudden decision to do virtual. Though if he'd seemed more understanding about my reaction (beyond "I'm not surprised by it"), I think that would go a long way for me.

But I do need to think about what I want from him (even if he can't give it, just to be able to explain to him). Because if I just sit there crying, expecting him to psychically know what I want him to say, despite not even knowing it myself, that's just a setup for failure. (Not just with him in the situation, but with anyone in my life.)