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Originally Posted by Quietmind 2
While I agree Dr T isn't psychic, do you feel he helps you explore why you cry?
Asking because when I start leaking tears in therapy, especially when I don't expect to be crying (and I'll be mystified by my crying sometimes), my T slows us down and coaches me in listening to myself on what is bringing on the tears. Usually it's informative, even if I keep dismissing it as irrational and an overreaction.
I ought to joke with her on how my Ex T celebrated the first time I shed tears, and how for a long time, my T would need to hand me tissue / put tissue wothin my reach, or I would get up to get some...and stop crying.
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This is a good question. There are times when I start crying at seemingly random times (like in the middle of when he's talking), and he'll stop and say, "What's going on?" And sometimes I'm not sure. But other times, it's because there's something I'm holding back. And I think he's come to realize that, how tears are often a sign that I want to say something but am not doing so for some reason. Like my body trying to communicate in other ways.
And it's not like the tears are always about something with him. I think of one time fairly recently when a thought about my daughter suddenly hit me from something he was saying. He stopped, asked what was going on, and I shared. Hm, I guess in some ways, the tears can be like raising my hand in class to speak.