I thought my Ex and I were doing OK following our separation.

Recently, though, I've been feeling rather prickly with her (I'm going through, what I supposed must be, natural stages of grieving and loss). Sometimes I think it's anger I'm feeling.

We always struggled. We still do. I know anger isn't a useful emotion to have but I hate the way she sometimes addresses me - She can be kind of belittling. I, in turn, can be punishing and thoughtless (then the anger is turned on myself).

Any strategies/suggestions for dealing with these strong post-relationship emotions?