I don't think the client needs to change for a therapist. I do think if the behaviors described go on in real situations rather than just around a therapist -then it might be worth knowing when one is being annoying with others. Doesn't mean you have to change or more what I see - try to get the other person to change to be the way you want -but it might explain some of the difficulties you report with others. I am not a giant fan of blaming parents - I think most really do try their best -and things can still go awry. I don't think the guy is wrong on not being in person and I am confused at what you want from him - you want to know what he thinks and why and he tells you and then you get all upset and get people here to tell you it is him and not you and I am not really seeing that it is different than what you described happening with past therapists or this one. I think people repeat patterns until they decide to do something different - so far you keep doing it the same way.