Is it really mean to finally speak up and have boundaries? Your husband is expecting his entire family to adjust to HIS needs which includes getting high which is the same as drinking alcohol tbh.

This is not new to you because that is what you grew up with where you were expected to live around your fathers alcoholism. Is that what you want your children to also do? This waiting and hoping for a calm to come has been a constant with you, can you see that?

You have been trained to live your life around a person with addiction disease and this IS their life drunk or sober it’s always about the disease. And FYI he is not really running from you. So don’t convince yourself to carry that kind of negative baggage.

It’s ok to say no, to say stop the bus and let me off.