LT—why is what you put in the trigger warning above on SH a red flag for him, but not for you? The red flag would be, my interactions with this therapist are not healthy for me and I need to think about alternatives.

That is not a bad reflection on either of you. I have a coworker and we are both decent people and like each other, but we don’t interact well past the level of colleagues. We tried to be friends, but we just rub each other the wrong way too much (and that has led to self-destructive urges on my part when I’m already in bad shape). So we stopped trying to be friends. Nothing is wrong with either of us.

I just don’t understand why the red flag is only for him.