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Old Jul 04, 2022, 02:51 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
It’s hard to say as every family has its own dynamics. Sometimes sucking up and putting up with things needed to be done to keep the peace and sometimes it’s better to take a stand.

At this point personally I’d do what’s better for your husband. Sometimes we have to do what’s uncomfortable to accommodate our spouses. Both my husband and I have some annoying relatives so at times we drag ourselves there to keep our spouse happy or keep them company so they aren’t there alone. Ideally we’d all have wonderful families and everyone will be always happy and nice. In reality it’s very far from the truth.

I’d ask your husband what he feels is best and go from there .
Thanks, divine.

This is actually quite surprising, coming from you. I would have thought you would say the opposite. But I do see your POV.

I just don't know. Her visit is under such unique circumstances, with my father dying on the exact day his mother arrived. Because I've spent so much time with he and his mom already, I've barely had time to myself to grieve. It's really tough. And my tendency right now is to withdraw so that 1) I can support my mom 2) I can grieve and 3) she's been hurtful towards me and I don't feel like being around her at this moment, while I am experiencing the pain and the loss of my dad. It's just a bit too much for me to take.

I may have answered my own question. I may just need to do what's right for me right now.
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