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Originally Posted by Have Hope
Thanks, divine. 
This is actually quite surprising, coming from you. I would have thought you would say the opposite. But I do see your POV.
I just don't know. Her visit is under such unique circumstances, with my father dying on the exact day his mother arrived. Because I've spent so much time with he and his mom already, I've barely had time to myself to grieve. It's really tough. And my tendency right now is to withdraw so that 1) I can support my mom 2) I can grieve and 3) she's been hurtful towards me and I don't feel like being around her at this moment, while I am experiencing the pain and the loss of my dad. It's just a bit too much for me to take.
I may have answered my own question. I may just need to do what's right for me right now. |
It’s understandable in your situation. Taking in consideration that she came for a long visit, there is no need to hang out so much. Not like she just came for a weekend. Also since your father just died you actually have a good excuse not to go out at all. And your mom needs you.
I was thinking more of annoying situation when we have to see obnoxious family. Unless we work or are sick or plan on fully estrange, we go to see obnoxious people together. Not saying you must please your husband at all times lol (it’s not my life’s motto), but when it comes to family sometimes you have to accompany our spouses to see families regardless how we feel about them. I think my take on a family concept is tainting my perception of such situations.